Often times in ones life… a person thinks about alot of things, money, work, family, love, loss… and often times the things people question never seem to make any sense, and well.. as most things in life we spend most of our lives looking for meaning or trying to answer questions we’ll never understand, and one of those big questions is “what is love?” or “Why Settle?”…
You see, I’m not sure I can answer either of these questions, But I am damn sure I can rant and rave quite a bit on the subject in question (nevermind my bad spelling and horrible sentence structure and overuse of punctuation) We as people spend an eternety trying to find that perfect match, or perfect one night stand, whatever your flavor may be… but all in all, the thing most of us want is to find love, someone you can share the rest of your life and be happy with, with no questions asked… Now, some will find it, and some won’t…. well, if you don’t, then I feel bad for you. Men and Woman will always find attraction in certain types of people, wether we focus on looks or personality we all have our types, we all have our hangups and we all have our turn-offs… but in general.. we all want the same thing.
Love… whatever your definition of that is… but most generally, finding someone we can trust and cherish for an eternity… or whatever other sappy thing you can put here… now I’ll admit, a few times I thought I found it… but I realized I was doing something else.. I was just convincing myself what I had was right… just to be in a comfortable state.. a sort of self satisfaction…. some of us , we try to “force” love or happiness.. but all we get is this false barrier of what will inevitably implode and leave us alone, looking for our next security blanket.. or just jumping from meaningless relationship to the next… I also admit to doing the same thing… but, luckily, with some growing up and soul searching… I have kicked that habit, found someone that fit my mold as far as who i truly wanted to be with, someone who was what I was looking for… and I’m content with that…very much so in fact… but enough about me…
For all you One Night Standers or Unfaithful morons, It’s time to grow up and onward, you’ll never find true happiness unless you can honestly define what or who will make you happy… and find it… him, or her…. because a good girl/guy will have your full attention, and you’ll never need to look elsewhere… cheating and the “bachelor” life in general shows a sort of insecurity…it shows your scared of being hurt or just can’t understand yourself well enough to find what your looking for… If you feel the need to cheat… go into porno or something… you’ll have better luck there.
So… to get to the point of this ridiculous rant… I really think, that we all need to settle, and a good relationship will ultimateley complete us as people… You need to truly look for what your looking for, and find it… down to every detail…. now if this means being picky FINE…. but put looks last on your list… picking for looks alone is like picking a pretty car without working parts….
Now… I mean, think it through… are you insecure, are you afraid of cheaters, fine… that happens, if thats the case, don’t date a bar star… don’t want to date an alcoholic, then don’t pick up at a bar… are you afraid of a girl/guy that will cheat on you or mess around on the internet? well, don’t search for girls or guys on the internet… lol, if they found you there, they’ll probably just as easily find someone else there too…. So before you look for that perfect mate… remember what your looking for… be picky… and find it…. Trust me… it makes sense… and in the end, you’ll be much happier…
Do I believe that theres someone out there for everybody? Yes!… Do I believe everyone can find that person? Yes again….. Why Settle?? because if you can find that perfect person, the person you can’t live without…. you’d be an idiot to let them go… and someone like that may never come along again…. so if you found what your looking for already……. hold on… and NEVER let go………..
**this concludes my mad unstructured late night rant…. stay tuned for more nonsense soon to come…. Johnny D Mackenzie
